AM I A PERFECTIONIST?

1. The perfectionist swings from inadequate self­image to compulsive drive for achievement of superior ideal.

2. He/she puts excessive demands on self and others as well.

3. He/she seeks the excessive approval of others.

4. The onset of perfectionism is very subtle because, as we think, "After all, I am only trying to do a good job."

5. The insistence on judgements, particularly moral judgements, that are either totally "black or totally "white." There are no degrees or shades of gray.

6. His/her brain becomes over­saturated and races around one obsessive thought­­usually some kind of insecurity.

7. Insomnia sets in because of so­called unresolved problems which normal people make wait. The perfectionist can't "let go" until a later, more appropriate time.

8. A perfectionist insists on exact order of nearly everthing: clothes, notes, etc. Some disorder is considered a mortal sin of outright negligence.

9. Depression sets in because of well­hidden "self­hate."

10. The perfectionist cannot afford to be "average" like other people because he/she associates being average with failure.

11. He/she is almost totally caught up with him/herself and shares him/herself only when it will add to his/her glory (e.g., getting someone else's approval).

12. He/she is a person of extremes. He/she becomes exhilarated with his/her success, or depressed with his/her failures.

13. The perfectionist moves from one created crisis to another as if he would be unhappy if he/she had no problem.

14. The perfectionist must have all the answers and his/her opinions must be absolutely correct and unchallengeable.

15. When trying to overcome this syndrome of perfectionism, the victim may fall deeper into the trap of perfectionism, feeling that he/she must rid him/herself of this defect of character, completely and immediately.


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