AM I CONTROLLING?

1. I must be "needed" in order to have a relationship with others.

2. I value other's approval of my thinking, feelings and behaviors over my own.

3. I agree with others so they will like me.

4. I focus my attention on protecting others, even from themselves.

5. I believe most other people are incapable of taking care of themselves.

6. I keep score of "good deeds and favors," becoming very hurt when they are not repaid.

7. I am very skilled at guessing how other people are feeling.

8. I can anticipate others' needs and desire, meeting them before they are asked to be met.

9. I become resentful when others will not let me help them.

10. I am calm and efficient in other people's crisis situations.

11. I feel good about myself only when I am helping others.

12. I freely offer others advice and directions without being asked.

13. I put aside my own interests and concerns in order to do what others want.

14. I ask for help and nurturing only when I am ill, and then reluctantly.

15. I cannot tolerate seeing others in pain.

16. I lavish gifts and favors on those I care about.

17. I use sex to gain approval and acceptance.

18. I attempt to convince others of how they "truly" think and "should" feel.

19. I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well­ being of others.

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Source Anonymous
Last Revised -- Monday, November 11, 1996 10:26:20 PM
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